Originally Posted by iaw4
every post here resonates with me.
my wife also has one car accident per year. her irrational fear is that either the wings or the tail (rudder) will fall off. seriously. has it ever happened?
Honestly? Yes, it's happened, but due to some other cause like exceeding g limits or the like.
You can't "argue" anyone into being comfortable with flight. And it's probably *worse* for a spouse or SO to try to do so...they need to understand their fears and work through them with someone who is as non-judgemental as possible. Yeah, yeah...we all think we're super-nice and understanding and all that, but I can assure you, no matter how great a partner you are, you're not THAT good, if they have a phobia or extremely heightened fear of __________.
And the more you try to "convince" them about something, the more pressure they will feel.
Now, if it's just and "I'm not sure...how safe is it? Can you tell me about it to help me be more comfortable?" kind of person, yeah, no worries. I've worked with plenty of those...a little trepidation at first, but some education and talking with them, and a brief intro flight and they realize there's really nothing to be scared of. They may never get *totally* comfortable with it, but they don't outright fear it.
But someone with a serious fear or phobia? Different ballpark.