#10 wire with a 20 amp current would have a 20mV (0.02 Volt) voltage drop per foot. So a 3 volt drop would be a 150 foot wire. Sounds like the wire size isn't the problem.
Check the voltage drop across the relay contacts. You might also want to check your battery output voltage directly on the battery when it is under load during starter operation.
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