This seems to be a persistent thread that never ends, just like the primer wars. Yep, platenuts can be a bit tight, but then again, they are supposed to be tight. I know, maybe a little too tight, and stripping the head on every screw is a bit much. Recognizing this, I usually run a used screw through every nutplate, either before or after I install them. This helps with the stripped head problem, but does not totally defeat the locking feature of the nutplate. Also, like a lot of others have suggested, I use boelube or candle wax to make this a little easier.
On the other hand, you don't want to totally defeat the locking capability of the nutplate. I suspect that running a tap through each nutplate, will actually remove material, and defeat the locking feature. I hope you are using safety wire on each screw, because you no longer have any extra force to keep the screw or bolts in place.
If you are squeezing each nutplate with pliers, then you are probably just ruining perfectly good nutplates. How do you calibrate this for consistentency? What about the potential for cracking the nutplates? It's your airplane, but trust me, nothing could be much easier and less damaging than just running an old screw through the new nutplates.
If you are twisting the heads off of screws, then I doubt that it has anything to do with the pressure on the nutplate. I have yet to see a nutplate so tight that I could twist the head off of a screw. Strip a screw head, yes, but twist a screw head off, nope, doesn't sound quite right. Maybe you just have a batch of bad screws.
But, then again, that's just my opinion. And I know, opinions are ...
Tracy.